Oh, avoiding hard work when you can is fine, but not helping out when people around you are struggling is the biggest red flag of true selfishness to me. I'm not saying all women are like that, but I've run into far too many of them and I'm properly disgusted at how many people will just let people they know do all the work for them, especially while displaying no shame whatsoever.
My own sister does that and I've had some heated arguments about it. She's a house wife and there's nothing wrong with that, but when you say things like "Hey, wanna help me dig out this garden," and you just stand there and watch me sweat my ass off on my day off while you smoke weed and chat with me or whichever female is there(and also not helping), you can fuck right off.
Also, nice trips.