The way i handle painful situations is accepting the fact that it happened for a reason. Nothing happens without a reason. If someone i knew died, i would try to accept it and move on because it already happened and i cannot do anything about that. Same with my appearance. People really close to me say that i look good, but i hate my hair, hate my face because its literally the most generic face anyone could have, like if you go into character creator in some mmorpg and the character automatically has a basic face, it how i look. But i think that the it was my fate to have a generic face, have manboobs, annoying hair and shit like that. Its almost like believing in some higher force that is doing it but i dont think there is anything beyond us out there. Its just that fate decides what will happen to all of us. Instead of being angry about it, accept it and move on. Besides, if someone insults you, and it hurts, remember that at least you are the better human being and you dont have to insult people everyday 24 hours a day to feel good or get satisfaction.