Well, the other factor you have to take into account as far as irl goes is that people are becoming disillusioned with each other. Divided along the lines of race, sex, politics and even social class. Some people don't like other people at all. Some of your actions online can subtly shape the way you act in general, but you seem to not think that you're that bad to others here. Keep trying, you'll clique with somebody eventually, but not if you don't try.