I live in the country, not some outer urban clone tool hellscape completely devoid of any community other than some organisation of miserable old biddies telling me what to plant in my garden and what colour my house should be.
I see in the inner-urban areas of the cities I visit a similar sort of sense of community that I value in my country town. Cafes and small specialist stores that people are regulars to. I am recognised in the cafes, stores and pubs I frequent when I visit.
Meanwhile your shopping is done at a mall and your children can't even visit their friends the next street over without you driving them completely out of the subdivision to a major road and then back into it again. No walkability, no corner stores, no social clubs, no third places at all. Suburbia might as well be a psyop to destroy community and civic virtue.