The real problem are the brainlets that think there is just one category of "gay".
There are "biological gays" that seem to have different facial features, smoother skin, brains, and same-sex attraction or opposite-sex behaviours from puberty or earlier.
There are "abuse gays" or "early sexual experience gays" (rare) that seem to undergo some kind of imprinting experience from a set (possibly just one) of early sexual experience, but may not otherwise exhibit the traits of "biological gays".
There are other cases, like autogynephiles, crossdressers, and desisting trans people that have other, deeper issues surrounding gender, identity, and self-image, and some attempt to work this out through homosexual behaviours. For some this might work, for others it may not.
There are the excessively socially conformist types that are influenced by ideology and culture to think being gay and bi is more edgy, cool, or whatever, and explore and experiment with their sexuality breifly, though it never really sticks.
There are autist, silicon-valley types that attempt to deliberately "hack" themselves to be able to find men attractive, or make themselves bi, or be able to have sex with men, partly because they are conformist like above, but also in an autistic attempt to prove their drives are under their control. Word is that although this can be done to some degree, it doesn't work that well, and same-sex experiences still never compare to heterosexual experiences for these people.
There are porn / sex addicts that gradually come to find same-sex stimuli arousing, presumably through some kind of conditioning and thinking (e.g. the sissy hypnosis garbage but also more passive and non-deliberate conditioning).
There are hyper-masculine / aggressive men that don't mind using sex and releasing sexual energy either as a power play, or a working through other issues.
The way lay people "think" about homosexuality is just fucking laughable.