I've been thinking aboout stabilization over the last year or so (I only do stillls).
I have a tight budget so when I wanted to upgrade my kit lens I ended up getting an older, slightly faster lens with better optics and build quality (non VR). For low light I have fast primes. I would like a fast wide prime with VR but... they don't exist really and would be expensive if they did.
The only lens I have now with stabilization is a 70-300mm. I believe the system works at around 300Hz so avoid shutter speeds around this number to avoid the smear/double image that can sometimes occur.
For me the main advantage of VR on long lenses is the effect in the viewfinder with erratic subjects. A super sharp photo of a birbs foot isn't as impressive as the wingspan filling the frame with a little softness (inb4 git gud).
tl;dr VR/IS is cool. If it's not cool just switch it off.