>>7389478>what you really feel when you see it is what matters the most in my opinion.
Oh yeah, I strongly agree with that. I'd even go further and say most people overlook their emotions and feelings too much. People associate emotions with weakness, but it reminds me of a quote.
A child asked his father, "Can you still be brave if you're afraid?"
His father replied, "That is the only time you can be brave."
Courage isn't absence of fear, it's action in spite of fear. If you take an action and didn't have any resistance, you haven't demonstrated any strength. Thus, feelings and vulnerabilities foster strength, not hinder it.
Some people also overlook or avoid emotions because they're "subjective" and "not objective," but those kinds of arguments misunderstand what feelings are supposed to do.
Basically, feelings and emotions are best used to better understand the links between what you have and what you want. They're measurement tools. The problems arise when people start assigning value judgments, telling themselves things like "I shouldn't feel this way" or "This feeling is wrong." If you're trying to head south and your compass points north, you don't say the compass is wrong. It's just giving you information.
I know that sometimes the feelings are less like measuring tools and more like shackles. Sometimes they trap you, and sometimes they drag you to places you don't want to go. I understand, I've attempted suicide. But I don't think we should throw the baby out with the bathwater.
We don't have to follow our feelings to the ends of the earth, but we should at least hear them out. There's a reason they're there, after all.