Dubs checked. Different Anon here.
52. Married. One 15 year old daughter. Job I don't like.
But I don't think one path is better than the other. Yeah, I dream of the futon at times. Especially now, when the pressure of caring for a family during C19 makes things so much worse, so much more stressful, than they would be if it was "just me". And when I was on the futon, I dreamed of having a family.
In the spirit of this thread, then, I'll just say, whatever path you're on, make sure it's the one you CHOSE. If you don't like it, fucking change it.
It doesn't matter where you are, or what you change it to, as long as you push, and improve yourself, and follow whatever path YOU determine is best.
Throughout your life, either (a) enjoy what you have, or (b) pursue what you want, or (c) both.