>>3715128> I don't want to sound rude but both of you should man up and find new friends/girlfriends if both of you were able to do it once surely you can do it again, just don't think it's the end of the road because both of you sound like alright people compared to what I normally see here.
Second, doesn't sound rude to me.
Third, sorry to disappoint, but I gave up that some time ago. I'm quite bad case of introvert - pretty much all people I could consider friends became them because they started it, not me and the ex was the same case (so it's not true that I was "able to do it once" - I tried, but never succeeded). I tried to learn/practice to socialize, to be assertive, to just talk to people, but I always failed and these failures became really tiring. Also, something is broken - not sure what exactly, but in computer terms, my program „romatic love“ somehow can't start anymore. So instead, I focus on what I actually *can* do, so I spend my time by learning Japanese, I'm trying to find some time to learn/practice drawing, etc.
(Btw. I didn't like birthday parties before she left me. Actually, the last bday party ex arranged was combined with hers, but most of the people didn't know about that and thought it was just about her. That's the best compromise I could ever wish for, I guess.)