Sounds similar to me. Married 9 years, most of it good. I'm 40, 28 year old at work is in to me, I'm in to her. We click. Actually been through some pretty traumatic stuff together at work (cops). We haven't done anything yet except she sent me some pics on snap chat. I want her so bad, but I don't want to hurt my wife or kids. She's a good wife and loves me all out. But this girl makes me feel like a damn teenager again.